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Patty* and Mark had been married for 30 years. Patty was devastated to find out the Mark had been having an affair. Through our work together, Patty and Mark were able to restore trust in their marriage. Both agree that their marriage is stronger now than it has ever been.
Vicki had been abused as a child. Al came from a long line of alcoholics. By understanding past traumas, Vicki and Al were able to come to a greater understanding of themselves and how to relate to one another. Now, both Vicki and Al see their past as an asset that helps them relate with one another (and people outside) their marriage with more compassion.
Helen and Abe were having trouble communicating without conflict. Things were so bad that they could barely stand to look at each other sometimes. They were able to implement communication strategies to prevent and recover from conflict. They moved from feeling like adversaries to one another's greatest allies.
Even though Nate and Josie talked about what raising their two children (his and hers) would be like, they clearly were not on the same page. Through learning to clarify their communication around expectations and boundaries, they are both thrilled with the roles the other plays in their children's lives.
There wasn't anything "wrong" with Henry and Cathy's marriage, but there wasn't much "right" either. They loved each other, but they were bored. They were experiencing emotional drift. Over the course of a few months, they were able to renew their friendship, have more fun, and play with one another. Their marriage 2.0 is better than they ever thought possible.
Mary and Peter were deeply in love. They were wise enough to realize that love may be blinding them to realities of each other and their relationship. Through several sessions of pre-marital counseling, Mary and Peter learned how to overcome several points of stress in their relationship allowing them to enter marriage with much greater confidence.
Maybe your marriage story is similar to one of the couples above. It is no doubt unique to your relationship.
My goal and hope in working with you is to help you learn to relate to one another more effectively, to overcome specific challenges, and develop skills and strategies that will increase trust and commitment over your lifetime together.
Ultimately, the goal of marriage therapy is to honor God above all else. Husbands and wives who are pursuing Christ and honoring one another can overcome almost any marital challenge. Let’s work together to develop a deeply satisfying and God-honoring marriage.
So, if you and your spouse are having trouble communicating, if you are having the same arguments over and over again, or a different argument with the same predictable pattern, I can teach you how to break that cycle. If trust has been broken, you can learn to trust again. If past traumas are having a negative impact on your marriage, you can learn how to respond differently to your triggers. If you're bored, you can learn how to renew the spark that brought you together in the first place. Or, if you want to make sure that you are starting your marriage off on the right foot, you can learn the skills you need to create a thriving marriage from day one.
Many people, especially guys, are afraid of marriage counseling. There’s the fear that all we’re going to do is sit around and talk about our feelings. There’s a fear that the therapist will take their spouse’s side. There’s a fear that marriage counseling could make things worse.
Most of the fears people bring to couples counseling are unfounded. While discussing feelings is important, our focus will be on improving communication and developing strategies to overcome impasses. I work diligently to maintain a “level playing field” with couples. Might your marriage end in divorce? Sadly, yes, that could happen. But if couples engage in the process and with one another, the likelihood of that happening is greatly diminished.
*To protect the confidentiality of clients, pseudonyms are used in these examples. Can you guess the historical figures the names are based on?